As I mentioned, I do actually sometimes get negative feedback from people, but overall the effect is positive, because it causes people to interact with me spontaneously when I have trouble initiating social interactions, and I’ve made quite a few good friends just from that. Being polarizing is way better than being neutral for meeting people and making friends. I also suspect being avoided by a person that would negatively judge someone they don’t know just for wearing a hat is probably also a positive thing. It’s a functional thing I need because I’m bald with pale skin and spend a lot of time outdoors in a sunny climate, so people that think that is “cringe” are most likely not nice people. I didn’t choose to be bald, or sun sensitive, and haven’t found anything else that works as well- and trust me I tried because I felt very awkward about wearing a noticeable hat at first. I would liken that to thinking eyeglasses, a wheelchair, or a cane are cringe.
Once I was publically mocked by a group of guys in eastern Europe (Czech Republic) that thought it was hilarious that I was probably a local, trying to dress like an American cowboy or something. It made their day, and mine when I responded verbally with an American accent, and they started apologizing and laughing.
Being polarizing is way better than being neutral for meeting people and making friends.
This is really important. If I meet 100 people and make 1 really good friend, then it doesn’t matter whether the other 99 like me or not. Being polarizing helps filter for the small number of people I want to talk to.
It’s can also be fun to play into American stereotypes overseas. It’s not everyday that a Czechian gets to meet an authentic American cowboy. I much prefer that look to the generic sloppy baseball cap + T-shirt.
A lot of people find wearing fancy hats “cringe”. If you didn’t get negative feedback, that may be because people don’t want to be rude.
As I mentioned, I do actually sometimes get negative feedback from people, but overall the effect is positive, because it causes people to interact with me spontaneously when I have trouble initiating social interactions, and I’ve made quite a few good friends just from that. Being polarizing is way better than being neutral for meeting people and making friends. I also suspect being avoided by a person that would negatively judge someone they don’t know just for wearing a hat is probably also a positive thing. It’s a functional thing I need because I’m bald with pale skin and spend a lot of time outdoors in a sunny climate, so people that think that is “cringe” are most likely not nice people. I didn’t choose to be bald, or sun sensitive, and haven’t found anything else that works as well- and trust me I tried because I felt very awkward about wearing a noticeable hat at first. I would liken that to thinking eyeglasses, a wheelchair, or a cane are cringe.
Once I was publically mocked by a group of guys in eastern Europe (Czech Republic) that thought it was hilarious that I was probably a local, trying to dress like an American cowboy or something. It made their day, and mine when I responded verbally with an American accent, and they started apologizing and laughing.
This is really important. If I meet 100 people and make 1 really good friend, then it doesn’t matter whether the other 99 like me or not. Being polarizing helps filter for the small number of people I want to talk to.
It’s can also be fun to play into American stereotypes overseas. It’s not everyday that a Czechian gets to meet an authentic American cowboy. I much prefer that look to the generic sloppy baseball cap + T-shirt.