I interpreted “net positive” as ‘net positive given the actual (non-disastrous) outcome’, rather than net positive ex ante.
Regardless, thanks for the OP. I only have niblings, not kids of my own, and I’m by nature pretty cautious anyway—but I sometimes struggle to judge which of my fears to take seriously and which ones to chill out about. Your story gave me a useful jolt and made sure I keep water safety in the “justified paranoia” column!
I interpreted “net positive” as ‘net positive given the actual (non-disastrous) outcome’, rather than net positive ex ante.
Regardless, thanks for the OP. I only have niblings, not kids of my own, and I’m by nature pretty cautious anyway—but I sometimes struggle to judge which of my fears to take seriously and which ones to chill out about. Your story gave me a useful jolt and made sure I keep water safety in the “justified paranoia” column!
Yes, that’s what I meant, thanks.