I would hypothesize that statistically the level of social grace of a person tends to stay largely the same over the course of their life
To be more precise, it’s that their social grace relative to their peers would be constant. Assume this is true. Now your hypothesis to explain this would be
I think that lack of social grace is strongly related to ASD, which is relatively immutable
Counter hypothesis: Social grace is learnable. When you do or say something, people around you can signal positively or negatively. Given enough signals, you can figure out what parts of your words/actions elicit positive or negative responses.
Then why do some people plateau in social grace?
In relatively uncalibrated individuals the training data is more costly to acquire: they’re relatively uncalibrated, so more likely to elicit negative response than their peers.
If you accumulate enough negative signals, then you’re out of the tribe.
Thus they’ve less opportunities to learn, either because they avoided many, or were ejected from their peer group.
miscalibration gets relatively worse over time: their peers improve faster.
This hypothesis would explain some ASD people’s consistent lack of social grace, even given lots of potential opportunities to learn, over a long time, even if they were equally perceptive of social signals.
To be more precise, it’s that their social grace relative to their peers would be constant. Assume this is true. Now your hypothesis to explain this would be
Counter hypothesis: Social grace is learnable. When you do or say something, people around you can signal positively or negatively. Given enough signals, you can figure out what parts of your words/actions elicit positive or negative responses.
Then why do some people plateau in social grace?
In relatively uncalibrated individuals the training data is more costly to acquire: they’re relatively uncalibrated, so more likely to elicit negative response than their peers.
If you accumulate enough negative signals, then you’re out of the tribe.
Thus they’ve less opportunities to learn, either because they avoided many, or were ejected from their peer group.
miscalibration gets relatively worse over time: their peers improve faster.
This hypothesis would explain some ASD people’s consistent lack of social grace, even given lots of potential opportunities to learn, over a long time, even if they were equally perceptive of social signals.
What do you think?