Agreed. If I’m talking to someone who I expect to be able to recalibrate, I just explain that I think the standard norms are dumb, the norms I actually follow, and then give an honest and balanced assessment. If I’m talking to someone I don’t really know, I generally give a positive but not very detailed reference or don’t reply, depending on context.
Agreed. If I’m talking to someone who I expect to be able to recalibrate, I just explain that I think the standard norms are dumb, the norms I actually follow, and then give an honest and balanced assessment. If I’m talking to someone I don’t really know, I generally give a positive but not very detailed reference or don’t reply, depending on context.