Do you struggle with feelings of isolation? I do sometimes, and I try to fix that by taking more social bids and proactively seeking social life. And then I immediately pull out because I get overwhelmed by social life very easily and it kinda colonizes my thought processes too much. So I’m kind of stuck in that loop of seeking more of it and then pulling out and then seeking more of it...
There’s some old greek who had a parable about hedgehogs in the cold, that shuffle closer and closer for warmth until they sting each other and shuffle apart again. I always thought that applies pretty well.
Hmm, part of the reason I asked is that the reasoning in your comment is the kind of cognitive process that tends to exhaust me when I have to work through it. It somehow coincides with me being more neurotic overall. So, basically, you think all that explicit stuff about social life, and you don’t feel at least a little pang of psychological pain/exhaustion? The very starting phrase (“a huge part of...”) reads like my thoughts when I’m ruminating about this stuff.
Sorry if this is a little intrusive, I’m just kind of curious, other than fishing for insights from people who might have similar thought-patterns.
I’m sufficiently extroverted that if the social interaction goes well, it gives me more than enough psychological energy to pay for multiple additional social bids. obviously, this is separate from physiological energy; if I’m sleep deprived and physically exhausted, this is insufficient. but I don’t generally get that physically exhausted from social interaction, unless I’m at neurips or something.
This sounds to me like a moderately positive score on the desire dimension (1st) and negative score on the capability dimension (2nd) of extroversion here.
I had such scores and my social situation is much better after I put some conscious effort towards resolving my social anxiety. (positive first, negative second is the only problematic pairing.)
This was a fun quiz. I’d not come across it before!
(I ended up with high scores on both indices, but higher on the second subscore (leadership and confidence) which surprised me a little. Overall I scored 249, which Claude reckons based on the chart they provide is about +1.5 SD among extraverts.)
Do you struggle with feelings of isolation? I do sometimes, and I try to fix that by taking more social bids and proactively seeking social life. And then I immediately pull out because I get overwhelmed by social life very easily and it kinda colonizes my thought processes too much. So I’m kind of stuck in that loop of seeking more of it and then pulling out and then seeking more of it...
Same.
There’s some old greek who had a parable about hedgehogs in the cold, that shuffle closer and closer for warmth until they sting each other and shuffle apart again. I always thought that applies pretty well.
I mostly get overwhelmed by social bids when I am physically tired or unwell, rather than purely because of social life.
Hmm, part of the reason I asked is that the reasoning in your comment is the kind of cognitive process that tends to exhaust me when I have to work through it. It somehow coincides with me being more neurotic overall. So, basically, you think all that explicit stuff about social life, and you don’t feel at least a little pang of psychological pain/exhaustion? The very starting phrase (“a huge part of...”) reads like my thoughts when I’m ruminating about this stuff.
Sorry if this is a little intrusive, I’m just kind of curious, other than fishing for insights from people who might have similar thought-patterns.
I’m sufficiently extroverted that if the social interaction goes well, it gives me more than enough psychological energy to pay for multiple additional social bids. obviously, this is separate from physiological energy; if I’m sleep deprived and physically exhausted, this is insufficient. but I don’t generally get that physically exhausted from social interaction, unless I’m at neurips or something.
This sounds to me like a moderately positive score on the desire dimension (1st) and negative score on the capability dimension (2nd) of extroversion here.
I had such scores and my social situation is much better after I put some conscious effort towards resolving my social anxiety. (positive first, negative second is the only problematic pairing.)
This was a fun quiz. I’d not come across it before!
(I ended up with high scores on both indices, but higher on the second subscore (leadership and confidence) which surprised me a little. Overall I scored 249, which Claude reckons based on the chart they provide is about +1.5 SD among extraverts.)