Yes, this is a short term thing which is (usually?) unstable and requires actively pouring energy into maintaining. A group that has a chance of this working long term usually has specific people that act as gateways—sometimes introducing a new person, sometimes getting rid of a person who shouldn’t be there. It’s another side of keeping gardens well pruned. They also tend to be insular, as otherwise it’s too easy for the wrong person to enter.
Yes, this is a short term thing which is (usually?) unstable and requires actively pouring energy into maintaining. A group that has a chance of this working long term usually has specific people that act as gateways—sometimes introducing a new person, sometimes getting rid of a person who shouldn’t be there. It’s another side of keeping gardens well pruned. They also tend to be insular, as otherwise it’s too easy for the wrong person to enter.
I avoid groups like the plague. My best relationships are all 1-to-1 and will be affected zero if any group or mutuals break apart.
I agree building groups long-term is hard. I don’t have very deep understanding of why.