I get the kinds of things that you’re talking about, but we’re strictly talking about the argument “If Gram had been a drug addict, then he would know what kind of plan I actually need.” Even if we take as an assumption that I have been a drug addict, then it does not follow that I am better at making plans that turn addicts into nonaddicts. If anything, I probably get the epistemic advantage from not being wireheaded. This is not about saying that there are times when someone’s feelings don’t have instrumental or moral weight. This is about saying that sometimes, people will make you think that an argument that includes knowledge of someone’s values as a proposition is itself a value judgment, making something that should not be off limits into something that is off limits. I can say, “No, I would not be better able to help you if I became a drug addict. That argument can be false even if its premises are assumed true.” If I stop talking about logical validity, which is always free game, and start being someone who blows off other people’s feelings for no good reason, then cut my head off.
It’s perhaps worth mentioning that this was a short encounter after a long separation, so this was an urgent situation where you cannot allow an addict to argue for credibility from expertise.
Let me know if this doesn’t address your concerns in any way.
I’m not saying you’re wrong. I’m not saying that you can afford to let logically invalid arguments go unchallenged as if there was nothing wrong with them. Or that emotions ought to be free from criticism or something. Or that you haven’t earned your confidence or that her listening to you wouldn’t be massively beneficial for her. And I certainly don’t see you as someone who blows off other people’s feelings for no reason—in fact, a big reason I wanted to respond to your comment was because I got the exact opposite impression from you. I’m sorry if it came across otherwise.
If you want I can try to explain more carefully what I was getting at, but I certainly don’t want to drag you into a conversation like this if it’s not something you want to get into here or now. I’m actually in a somewhat similar situation myself so I’m well aware that it’s not always the time for that kind of thing.
I get the kinds of things that you’re talking about, but we’re strictly talking about the argument “If Gram had been a drug addict, then he would know what kind of plan I actually need.” Even if we take as an assumption that I have been a drug addict, then it does not follow that I am better at making plans that turn addicts into nonaddicts. If anything, I probably get the epistemic advantage from not being wireheaded. This is not about saying that there are times when someone’s feelings don’t have instrumental or moral weight. This is about saying that sometimes, people will make you think that an argument that includes knowledge of someone’s values as a proposition is itself a value judgment, making something that should not be off limits into something that is off limits. I can say, “No, I would not be better able to help you if I became a drug addict. That argument can be false even if its premises are assumed true.” If I stop talking about logical validity, which is always free game, and start being someone who blows off other people’s feelings for no good reason, then cut my head off.
It’s perhaps worth mentioning that this was a short encounter after a long separation, so this was an urgent situation where you cannot allow an addict to argue for credibility from expertise.
Let me know if this doesn’t address your concerns in any way.
I’m not saying you’re wrong. I’m not saying that you can afford to let logically invalid arguments go unchallenged as if there was nothing wrong with them. Or that emotions ought to be free from criticism or something. Or that you haven’t earned your confidence or that her listening to you wouldn’t be massively beneficial for her. And I certainly don’t see you as someone who blows off other people’s feelings for no reason—in fact, a big reason I wanted to respond to your comment was because I got the exact opposite impression from you. I’m sorry if it came across otherwise.
If you want I can try to explain more carefully what I was getting at, but I certainly don’t want to drag you into a conversation like this if it’s not something you want to get into here or now. I’m actually in a somewhat similar situation myself so I’m well aware that it’s not always the time for that kind of thing.