imo it “makes sense” to have a default prior of suspicion that things which have hurt you are Bad, things which you’ve never seen provide value Don’t Provide Value, and things which you’ve never seen at all Don’t Exist.
Like, there’s a kind of innate Occam’s Razor built into people that often takes the form of doubt, and it’s good to have this pressure as opposed to being infinitely credulous or letting the complexity of the territory spiral out of control until your map isn’t helpful.
But I think a key part of maturity is coming to recognize the fact that your subset of experience is impoverished, and there are things that are outside of your view (and not written on your map) that are nevertheless real, and learning to productively ask the question “have I not seen evidence of this before because no evidence exists, or because I’ve been blinded by the RNG gods?”
imo it “makes sense” to have a default prior of suspicion that things which have hurt you are Bad, things which you’ve never seen provide value Don’t Provide Value, and things which you’ve never seen at all Don’t Exist.
Like, there’s a kind of innate Occam’s Razor built into people that often takes the form of doubt, and it’s good to have this pressure as opposed to being infinitely credulous or letting the complexity of the territory spiral out of control until your map isn’t helpful.
But I think a key part of maturity is coming to recognize the fact that your subset of experience is impoverished, and there are things that are outside of your view (and not written on your map) that are nevertheless real, and learning to productively ask the question “have I not seen evidence of this before because no evidence exists, or because I’ve been blinded by the RNG gods?”