As you rightly point out, it is a skill that one can train, but also genetic (charisma, public speaking, and general insensitivity to the ‘spotlight’ effect, etc.). Predicting and keeping track of meta-frames in one story, accurately reading people, and the capacity to adjust are all very valuable skills.
However, it is quite energy intensive; so I get why people are called rude; dealing with people is tough; ask service providers. And when people are tired, they make mistakes (I’d wager it is the most social people that are called rude etc.; and we get the ‘bad boy’ paradox). OTOH, like with all skills, practicing fundamentals is a great start.
As you rightly point out, it is a skill that one can train, but also genetic (charisma, public speaking, and general insensitivity to the ‘spotlight’ effect, etc.). Predicting and keeping track of meta-frames in one story, accurately reading people, and the capacity to adjust are all very valuable skills.
However, it is quite energy intensive; so I get why people are called rude; dealing with people is tough; ask service providers. And when people are tired, they make mistakes (I’d wager it is the most social people that are called rude etc.; and we get the ‘bad boy’ paradox). OTOH, like with all skills, practicing fundamentals is a great start.