Obtained new evidence that made you change your mind about some belief
I have always been dubious about the socio-sexual-hiearchy—whether it was an exaggeratioed model or existed at all. But I did expierence it first-hand and updated accordingly.
How did this come about? I actually went to a normal party and participated in real night-life which I had ne need (or time) for before, but due to circumstances found interesting to try. Apparently my normal social peer group (16 friends mostly couples with children) doesn’t noticably opperate this way but on the part it was kind of obvious for me. Alpha girl around which everybody orbited, beta girls—friends of the alpha being tagged along, beta men (me fitting in as one), One barely alpha guy being approach by the alpha female. Some other deltas.
Well I could trotally misread this and the alpha women was just the most fun and entertaining person in the room and I’m just ordering this by how much attention everybody got—for whatever reason. But the alpha girl was clearly attractive too. I’m not normally very responsive to this but here it was quite obvious.
Decided to behave in a different way in some set of situations
I had to. My new role causes colleagues to behave differently toward me. Everything I say is interpreted with a status-filter enabled. I can’t simply propose solutions—it’s interpreted as ‘should’ and seen as tahing autonomy away. At least by many. I’m not used to thiis. Before I was treated as a competent equal. Now that have been singled out I have to change my whole communication approach. I can’t any longer just communicate facts. They will not be heard that way. Not only.
The upside—which I have not significantly explored yet—is that I could have more impact by aligning more people. Tricky all that. But interesting.
Optimized some part of a common routine or cached behavior
I improved my morning routine. I used to set my alarm somewhat early and postpone getting up. I tried a means proposed somewhere here of getting up on first ringing by a) visualizing how it will feel when I’m up and eating breakfast or whatever and b) training getting up by simulation: setting the alarm late on a weekend and then getting up immediately (which was easy because I was well-rested and motivated to change the routine.
I save sleep-time this way effectively because I do not loose sleep by redundant early rings.
Caveat: Sometimes I visualize how it will feel getting up and come to the conclusion that resting a bit longer is worth the later stress.
Also note a specific hack I discovered to get up quickly: Relax urination control—in the morning this is likely to increase need. May or may not work for you.
Consciously pursued new valuable information about something that could make a big difference in your life
I’m still open to social situations (the above party one of these) and helpful information related to these.
One thing I’m trying cautionsly is drinking in these social situations. I established the habit of only trying one new drink at a time. ‘Knowledge’ I acquired this way: Drink lots of water in between drinks. Only one drink per hour. Eat well before (and/or during or after) drinking. And the omnipresent advice: Don’t mix types of drinks. On my 3 real-life ‘experiments’ so far I got no hang-over but only moderate sleep deprivation.
I’m fully aware of the health risks and not bound to increase these experiments but I do notice that I get a trove of social experience I don’t know how I could have come by otherwise/easily.
Learned something new about your beliefs, behavior, or life that surprised you
I noticed how depressed I felt when I was ill and how difficult it was to pursue solutions that appear obvious in hindsight. I felt overwelmed by a backlog of household tasks—when I could in fact solve lots of these by e.g. throwing money at them (note that I’m currently in a spot where I severely lack time but do earn significantly more money than I spend. Can spend due to lacking time.
Tried doing any of the above and failed
At one thing I failed big. And I was so proud that I believed that I had succeeded. It’s kind of embarrassing: In a stressful period I fell back to plucking my beard and ruined it—despite desperate tries to recover. I went to desperate measures but stress won. Finally I shaved it off. Of course it is growing back slowly, but it taught me that stress is not to be messed with.
A word about the desperate measure above. You might consider it too in some cases, e.g. if you have a blank spot in your beard for whatever reason: Mascara pens can cover up small spots completely convincingly. It is easy. The hardest part was going into a beauty show and asking a cosmetician for suitable color and technique. She was pleasently surprised, gave good advice and mentioned that she’d tell her husband who lamented his blank spots also. She mentioned artificial beard hair but I didn’t try that (needs fixation and what not). All in all I made kind of a win out of it. Applied rejection therapy and such.
I have always been dubious about the socio-sexual-hiearchy—whether it was an exaggeratioed model or existed at all. But I did expierence it first-hand and updated accordingly.
How did this come about? I actually went to a normal party and participated in real night-life which I had ne need (or time) for before, but due to circumstances found interesting to try. Apparently my normal social peer group (16 friends mostly couples with children) doesn’t noticably opperate this way but on the part it was kind of obvious for me. Alpha girl around which everybody orbited, beta girls—friends of the alpha being tagged along, beta men (me fitting in as one), One barely alpha guy being approach by the alpha female. Some other deltas.
Well I could trotally misread this and the alpha women was just the most fun and entertaining person in the room and I’m just ordering this by how much attention everybody got—for whatever reason. But the alpha girl was clearly attractive too. I’m not normally very responsive to this but here it was quite obvious.
I had to. My new role causes colleagues to behave differently toward me. Everything I say is interpreted with a status-filter enabled. I can’t simply propose solutions—it’s interpreted as ‘should’ and seen as tahing autonomy away. At least by many. I’m not used to thiis. Before I was treated as a competent equal. Now that have been singled out I have to change my whole communication approach. I can’t any longer just communicate facts. They will not be heard that way. Not only.
The upside—which I have not significantly explored yet—is that I could have more impact by aligning more people. Tricky all that. But interesting.
I improved my morning routine. I used to set my alarm somewhat early and postpone getting up. I tried a means proposed somewhere here of getting up on first ringing by a) visualizing how it will feel when I’m up and eating breakfast or whatever and b) training getting up by simulation: setting the alarm late on a weekend and then getting up immediately (which was easy because I was well-rested and motivated to change the routine.
I save sleep-time this way effectively because I do not loose sleep by redundant early rings. Caveat: Sometimes I visualize how it will feel getting up and come to the conclusion that resting a bit longer is worth the later stress.
Also note a specific hack I discovered to get up quickly: Relax urination control—in the morning this is likely to increase need. May or may not work for you.
I’m still open to social situations (the above party one of these) and helpful information related to these. One thing I’m trying cautionsly is drinking in these social situations. I established the habit of only trying one new drink at a time. ‘Knowledge’ I acquired this way: Drink lots of water in between drinks. Only one drink per hour. Eat well before (and/or during or after) drinking. And the omnipresent advice: Don’t mix types of drinks. On my 3 real-life ‘experiments’ so far I got no hang-over but only moderate sleep deprivation.
I’m fully aware of the health risks and not bound to increase these experiments but I do notice that I get a trove of social experience I don’t know how I could have come by otherwise/easily.
I noticed how depressed I felt when I was ill and how difficult it was to pursue solutions that appear obvious in hindsight. I felt overwelmed by a backlog of household tasks—when I could in fact solve lots of these by e.g. throwing money at them (note that I’m currently in a spot where I severely lack time but do earn significantly more money than I spend. Can spend due to lacking time.
At one thing I failed big. And I was so proud that I believed that I had succeeded. It’s kind of embarrassing: In a stressful period I fell back to plucking my beard and ruined it—despite desperate tries to recover. I went to desperate measures but stress won. Finally I shaved it off. Of course it is growing back slowly, but it taught me that stress is not to be messed with.
A word about the desperate measure above. You might consider it too in some cases, e.g. if you have a blank spot in your beard for whatever reason: Mascara pens can cover up small spots completely convincingly. It is easy. The hardest part was going into a beauty show and asking a cosmetician for suitable color and technique. She was pleasently surprised, gave good advice and mentioned that she’d tell her husband who lamented his blank spots also. She mentioned artificial beard hair but I didn’t try that (needs fixation and what not). All in all I made kind of a win out of it. Applied rejection therapy and such.