The guy shot her father and she just talked to him and did nothing else? Now the next honor culture person to wrong her will know what kind of “revenge” to expect.
She built a relationship with his family, which establishes her humanity and some level of obligation. In case it was not clear this entailed an American Jew travelling into Palestinian Gaza, during a period of active conflict, alone, unarmed, to visit the family of the people who shot her father, in a PLO neighborhood. This is much braver than a drive-by-shooting would have been. Further she had been their guest, and both Jews and Palestinians value hospitality extremely highly.
Then she publicly confronted them, some 12 years after the event. Suddenly it wasn’t some Jew he shot, it was the father of a person his family knew, who had been their guest, who was clearly brave and loved her family.
The person who is wronged decides their own demands; the point is whether her honor is satisfied.
That’s the point for her, but it has zilch to do with “revenge” in honor cultures, which is about making sure nobody else messes with your clan in the future.
The guy shot her father and she just talked to him and did nothing else? Now the next honor culture person to wrong her will know what kind of “revenge” to expect.
She built a relationship with his family, which establishes her humanity and some level of obligation. In case it was not clear this entailed an American Jew travelling into Palestinian Gaza, during a period of active conflict, alone, unarmed, to visit the family of the people who shot her father, in a PLO neighborhood. This is much braver than a drive-by-shooting would have been. Further she had been their guest, and both Jews and Palestinians value hospitality extremely highly.
Then she publicly confronted them, some 12 years after the event. Suddenly it wasn’t some Jew he shot, it was the father of a person his family knew, who had been their guest, who was clearly brave and loved her family.
The person who is wronged decides their own demands; the point is whether her honor is satisfied.
That’s the point for her, but it has zilch to do with “revenge” in honor cultures, which is about making sure nobody else messes with your clan in the future.