Seems like trusting each other is a high-risk/high-benefit strategy. When it works, it is amazing; but often it does not.
The question is how to best predict which people would be most likely to cooperate in this game. The relevant saying seems to be “past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior”, but what kind of past behavior are we talking about? (Probably not the previous relationship, because succeeding at it would make the person unavailable. Unless their former partner was hit by a car.)
My best guess is if the person has a history of taking care of something, e.g. working at a non-profit.
It was meant as a reaction to your parents’ relationship. It worked for them, but that’s because they both cooperated on the mutual goal. It would fail when only one party tries, and the other does not. And you have no control over what the other person does… expect when you are choosing the other person.
If you want to achieve the same as your parents did, you have two problems to solve:
how to be the right kind of person
how to find the right kind of person
The first one seems more important, because if you fail at that, it doesn’t matter how many relationships you will try. But the second one is an independent problem, at least as much difficult.
Seems like trusting each other is a high-risk/high-benefit strategy. When it works, it is amazing; but often it does not.
The question is how to best predict which people would be most likely to cooperate in this game. The relevant saying seems to be “past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior”, but what kind of past behavior are we talking about? (Probably not the previous relationship, because succeeding at it would make the person unavailable. Unless their former partner was hit by a car.)
My best guess is if the person has a history of taking care of something, e.g. working at a non-profit.
Did you intend to post this as a reply in a different thread?
It was meant as a reaction to your parents’ relationship. It worked for them, but that’s because they both cooperated on the mutual goal. It would fail when only one party tries, and the other does not. And you have no control over what the other person does… expect when you are choosing the other person.
If you want to achieve the same as your parents did, you have two problems to solve:
how to be the right kind of person
how to find the right kind of person
The first one seems more important, because if you fail at that, it doesn’t matter how many relationships you will try. But the second one is an independent problem, at least as much difficult.