“If I’m doing something which is hurting my partner, but my partner isn’t comfortable telling me, then how will it ever get solved? If I want something really important from my partner, but I’m not comfortable asking them or telling them that I need it, then how will they know that it’s especially important to provide?”
You could pay attention to each other and notice, without the other person having to say it explicitly unprompted. Of course if somoene seems concerned you can clarify the issue, they can’t read minds. But your partner most certainly can notice comething is wrong and have some idea of whats going on.
Among normies there is a very reasonable norm that “if they aren’t paying attention enough attention to even notice a problem, then its not safe to tell them whats going on”. It takes two to tango.
“If I’m doing something which is hurting my partner, but my partner isn’t comfortable telling me, then how will it ever get solved? If I want something really important from my partner, but I’m not comfortable asking them or telling them that I need it, then how will they know that it’s especially important to provide?”
You could pay attention to each other and notice, without the other person having to say it explicitly unprompted. Of course if somoene seems concerned you can clarify the issue, they can’t read minds. But your partner most certainly can notice comething is wrong and have some idea of whats going on.
Among normies there is a very reasonable norm that “if they aren’t paying attention enough attention to even notice a problem, then its not safe to tell them whats going on”. It takes two to tango.