People were talking about how critical the comments were of you, and I noticed that it hadn’t stood out to me because the way you write it doesn’t seem like it’s hard for you. Or maybe it is, but you just don’t let it get in the way. Either way, I find that cool, and admirable. I hope others see it too, and work towards the same thing.
Anyway, on the object level what I’d say is that people want to be seen as what they are. Removing suspensions and working towards full engagement does indeed bring teething issues, as you’re experiencing, because not everything you learn with be toothless. Sometimes you do have to change behaviors in ways that hold people more accountable, and often that comes with an “oof”.
And people really don’t want to be almost seen for what they are without the full picture coming through (e.g. You don’t want people to see the embarrassing things about you without also seeing why they’d have done the same thing in your situation).
At the end of the day though, full engagement with the kinks worked out does run more smoothly, and kindly, and is a goal worth aspiring to.
People were talking about how critical the comments were of you, and I noticed that it hadn’t stood out to me because the way you write it doesn’t seem like it’s hard for you. Or maybe it is, but you just don’t let it get in the way. Either way, I find that cool, and admirable. I hope others see it too, and work towards the same thing.
Anyway, on the object level what I’d say is that people want to be seen as what they are. Removing suspensions and working towards full engagement does indeed bring teething issues, as you’re experiencing, because not everything you learn with be toothless. Sometimes you do have to change behaviors in ways that hold people more accountable, and often that comes with an “oof”.
And people really don’t want to be almost seen for what they are without the full picture coming through (e.g. You don’t want people to see the embarrassing things about you without also seeing why they’d have done the same thing in your situation).
At the end of the day though, full engagement with the kinks worked out does run more smoothly, and kindly, and is a goal worth aspiring to.