To start the process of developing better social skills for dealing with women in general. My current inexperience and discomfort with women mean that I give off weird “tells,” as Texas Hold’em players say in their context, that women can pick up on that apparently make them feel uneasy about me.
A lot of the tells might not have to do with being inexperienced but with being misogynistic.
Even if that would be true it’s still something that makes some woman feel uneasy. Not making woman uneasy itself doesn’t guarantee sexual success but it’s still very useful. On the other hand I don’t see how inexperience makes woman feel uneasy.
On the other hand I don’t see how inexperience makes woman feel uneasy.
Of course a man’s inexperience can make women uneasy, and for reasons they might find hard to articulate if they don’t encounter enough inexperienced middle aged men to form a good profile about them. Men who got their sexual experience at an appropriate age develop what I call the Adult Man’s Skill Set (AMSS); yet ironically they don’t see what AMSS does for them because they lack perspective on it and just take it for granted, like learning how to drive as a teenager. I, by contrast, can see all kinds of nonobvious things about AMSS from its absence in my life.
If so, I rather doubt that AA wishes to be—it seems rather more like AA’s more atomistic description (inexperience and discomfort) encapsulates the actual content of the feeling. I’m not sure what labeling it that way would add aside from making things worse.
Labeling that way increases the likelihood that he notices the causation between expressing misogynistic thoughts and women as a result feeling uneasy.
Hmm. Has She Who Must Not Be Named talked to you about me? I’ve started to wonder if her obsession with me derives from something I don’t seem to have generated in a woman before, namely, jealousy.
A lot of the tells might not have to do with being inexperienced but with being misogynistic.
If misogynistic guys had problem getting laid, misogyny would have already disappeared long ago.
(Disclaimer: I do not approve of misogyny, but I believe it is more or less orthogonal to sexual success.)
Even if that would be true it’s still something that makes some woman feel uneasy. Not making woman uneasy itself doesn’t guarantee sexual success but it’s still very useful. On the other hand I don’t see how inexperience makes woman feel uneasy.
Of course a man’s inexperience can make women uneasy, and for reasons they might find hard to articulate if they don’t encounter enough inexperienced middle aged men to form a good profile about them. Men who got their sexual experience at an appropriate age develop what I call the Adult Man’s Skill Set (AMSS); yet ironically they don’t see what AMSS does for them because they lack perspective on it and just take it for granted, like learning how to drive as a teenager. I, by contrast, can see all kinds of nonobvious things about AMSS from its absence in my life.
Can I rephrase this?
Are there really no such traits X?
If so, I rather doubt that AA wishes to be—it seems rather more like AA’s more atomistic description (inexperience and discomfort) encapsulates the actual content of the feeling. I’m not sure what labeling it that way would add aside from making things worse.
Labeling that way increases the likelihood that he notices the causation between expressing misogynistic thoughts and women as a result feeling uneasy.
Yes, IF he is misogynistic and hasn’t noticed that, then he could do some introspection to determine whether that is the case.
From the way he’s presented it—putting the problems entirely within himself—it really doesn’t seem to me like that’s the problem here.
Hmm. Has She Who Must Not Be Named talked to you about me? I’ve started to wonder if her obsession with me derives from something I don’t seem to have generated in a woman before, namely, jealousy.