I’m quite confused by your indignation at the description of 50 Shades as a portrait of “an abusive relationship with a rapist”, followed by your agreeing that Grey in the book did abusive things and “crossed consent lines here and there” (which comes across as an overly flippant phrasing for the subject matter, but whatever). Him allegedly trying to be better isn’t good enough. I haven’t read the book, but I am… not sure about your claim that the relationship is a relatively good one (I expect this is true of some societies and not others), but even if that’s true, there’s no need to grade on a curve here or object to a factual description of bad things because the bad things are common. Indeed, their being common is much of the point, here.
I’m quite confused by your indignation at the description of 50 Shades as a portrait of “an abusive relationship with a rapist”, followed by your agreeing that Grey in the book did abusive things and “crossed consent lines here and there” (which comes across as an overly flippant phrasing for the subject matter, but whatever). Him allegedly trying to be better isn’t good enough. I haven’t read the book, but I am… not sure about your claim that the relationship is a relatively good one (I expect this is true of some societies and not others), but even if that’s true, there’s no need to grade on a curve here or object to a factual description of bad things because the bad things are common. Indeed, their being common is much of the point, here.