Anecdotally, punishment seems to be a good guilt-releaser, while guilt is dysthymic. Punishment may be effective at snapping someone out of a blue funk and getting them to be responsive to rewards. Guilty people reject rewards. (The above may work better if you are kinked that way.)
Now you’ve made me curious what you thought it was.
Although to clarify, I meant that as generally as I said it. It applies in kink, and it applies out of kink. Kink just has the most readily accessible anecdotes.
Now you’ve made me curious what you thought it was.
I just found it opaque. The context you linked had not occurred to me. Still is, to some extent, despite having cough some slight familiarity with such things, but people’s experiences and conceptualisations vary enormously.
If and only if it’s negatively self reinforcing. Which it might not be, if it’s serving some purpose.
Self-harm can help you to feel in control, and reduce uncomfortable feelings of tension and distress. If you feel guilty, it can be a way of punishing yourself and relieving your guilt. Either way, it can become a ‘quick fix’ for feeling bad.
Anecdotally, punishment seems to be a good guilt-releaser, while guilt is dysthymic. Punishment may be effective at snapping someone out of a blue funk and getting them to be responsive to rewards. Guilty people reject rewards. (The above may work better if you are kinked that way.)
I’m curious about the anecdotes. I feel like I’m reading travellers’ tales of the weird customs of a distant tribe.
How about I direct you to this blog for a gentle introduction?
It’s guessable from context, but an NSFW tag would probably be good here.
Ah, that sort of thing. Ok, not so Martian after all.
Now you’ve made me curious what you thought it was.
Although to clarify, I meant that as generally as I said it. It applies in kink, and it applies out of kink. Kink just has the most readily accessible anecdotes.
I just found it opaque. The context you linked had not occurred to me. Still is, to some extent, despite having cough some slight familiarity with such things, but people’s experiences and conceptualisations vary enormously.
What about self punishment?
Every time you do it, you condition yourself against doing it.
If and only if it’s negatively self reinforcing. Which it might not be, if it’s serving some purpose.
-- http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinfo/problems/depression/self-harm.aspx