I ended up not using it on the first of the deep disagreements I had floating around, because it felt like it might constrain the conversation a bit. My new, small update is to officially note that I’d definitely recommend first trying the usual thing of “talk about it for a few hours and see if you can come to agreement or something close to it”, and yeah, only bust out something like this if you’ve tried that at least once or twice and it didn’t seem sufficient.
I ended up not using it on the first of the deep disagreements I had floating around, because it felt like it might constrain the conversation a bit. My new, small update is to officially note that I’d definitely recommend first trying the usual thing of “talk about it for a few hours and see if you can come to agreement or something close to it”, and yeah, only bust out something like this if you’ve tried that at least once or twice and it didn’t seem sufficient.