I hear often that CFAR has made significant strides toward useful introspection and self-modification, and I have read some of the few publicly accessible materials, including a post on internal double crux, and I can understand the rationale behind them, but did not find them as useful as advertised, either to myself or to those I try to help get better. Maybe it’s significantly different in an actual intensive program or in a group setting, as is usually the case for other forms of therapy, like ACT/DBT/CBT.
Nod. There is a reason that CFAR’s stance is something like “if you’ve been to CFAR, it’s encouraged to teach other people them if you yourself have been to CFAR, but be aware that teaching them is quite hard, and reading up on the techniques on your own is probably not helpful”. There’s a lot of subtle things to get wrong which are easier to catch if you are interacting in realtime with a real human.
FWIW, I think the most relevant skill here is Focusing (at least, that’s the one that most literally is “actively listening to yourself”), which wasn’t invented by CFAR, and the audiobook for it is pretty good.
I hear often that CFAR has made significant strides toward useful introspection and self-modification, and I have read some of the few publicly accessible materials, including a post on internal double crux, and I can understand the rationale behind them, but did not find them as useful as advertised, either to myself or to those I try to help get better. Maybe it’s significantly different in an actual intensive program or in a group setting, as is usually the case for other forms of therapy, like ACT/DBT/CBT.
Nod. There is a reason that CFAR’s stance is something like “if you’ve been to CFAR, it’s encouraged to teach other people them if you yourself have been to CFAR, but be aware that teaching them is quite hard, and reading up on the techniques on your own is probably not helpful”. There’s a lot of subtle things to get wrong which are easier to catch if you are interacting in realtime with a real human.
FWIW, I think the most relevant skill here is Focusing (at least, that’s the one that most literally is “actively listening to yourself”), which wasn’t invented by CFAR, and the audiobook for it is pretty good.