Don’t make my helping you have been a bad idea for me
Yeah, I think this is a good baseline to aspire to, but of course the “my helping you” is the contentious point here. If you hurt me, and then also demand that I make you whole, then that’s not a particularly reasonable request. Why should I make you whole, I am already not whole myself!
Sometimes interactions are just negative-sum. That’s the whole reason why it does usually make sense to check-in beforehand before doing things that could easily turn out to be negative sum, which this situation clearly turned out to be!
Yeah, I think this is a good baseline to aspire to, but of course the “my helping you” is the contentious point here. If you hurt me, and then also demand that I make you whole, then that’s not a particularly reasonable request. Why should I make you whole, I am already not whole myself!
Sometimes interactions are just negative-sum. That’s the whole reason why it does usually make sense to check-in beforehand before doing things that could easily turn out to be negative sum, which this situation clearly turned out to be!