It is indeed rude to ask your hosts to make you something special to accommodate your diet. That’s why I don’t do it. This is part of how I try to not be a problem for other people. If I’m not expecting vegetarian options, I just eat in advance and then nibble on the bread or something. I did this around Anglos even back when I ate a normal diet, because Anglos often serve so little food.
My East Asian family doesn’t see it as an affront (though I can’t speak for everyone—especially not anyone under the age of 18). To the contrary, it’s a source of common ground between me and my vegetarian Pure Land Buddhist Taiwanese great aunt. It’s just about getting the right framing. East Asians understand that Buddhists often eat a vegan diet.
It is indeed rude to ask your hosts to make you something special to accommodate your diet. That’s why I don’t do it. This is part of how I try to not be a problem for other people. If I’m not expecting vegetarian options, I just eat in advance and then nibble on the bread or something. I did this around Anglos even back when I ate a normal diet, because Anglos often serve so little food.
My East Asian family doesn’t see it as an affront (though I can’t speak for everyone—especially not anyone under the age of 18). To the contrary, it’s a source of common ground between me and my vegetarian Pure Land Buddhist Taiwanese great aunt. It’s just about getting the right framing. East Asians understand that Buddhists often eat a vegan diet.