The problem with “Do you want to come back to my room for sex?” can be that it requires the woman to commit in that moment.
A woman might very well think: “I would enjoy making out in a more private space but at the moment I don’t know whether I actually want to have sex, and I want to make that decision based on how I feel in the moment”
I find this strange, because if I’m attracted to someone, this attraction doesn’t change on a second-by-second basis, although perhaps its just me that feels like that. I think if this hypothetical woman doesn’t know whether she wants sex, maybe it would be best for her to wait until the next date, where she might have a better idea of what she wants.
I heard some advice saying that if you’re not enthusiastic about something its not worth doing, and while I’m not sure this applies in general, I would apply it to sex. No point in half-hearted sex.
I find this strange, because if I’m attracted to someone, this attraction doesn’t change on a second-by-second basis, although perhaps its just me that feels like that.
Being attracted to someone and wanting to have sex with them next minute aren’t the same thing. You usually want to also be horny to have sex. Women also want to feel comfort and trust.
A woman might feel: “I’m attracted to this guy but I’m menstruating and I don’t like it to have sex while I’m menstruating.”
where she might have a better idea of what she wants.
That assumes that a mental idea of what she wants drives her behavior. I think in most cases a woman will instead listen to her emotions that tell her what she likes in that particular moment instead of relying too much on mental concepts.
That desire might simply be: “I want to be more intimite with this guy than I’m at the moment but I don’t want to be in public when we get more intimite.”
The problem with “Do you want to come back to my room for sex?” can be that it requires the woman to commit in that moment. A woman might very well think: “I would enjoy making out in a more private space but at the moment I don’t know whether I actually want to have sex, and I want to make that decision based on how I feel in the moment”
I find this strange, because if I’m attracted to someone, this attraction doesn’t change on a second-by-second basis, although perhaps its just me that feels like that. I think if this hypothetical woman doesn’t know whether she wants sex, maybe it would be best for her to wait until the next date, where she might have a better idea of what she wants.
I heard some advice saying that if you’re not enthusiastic about something its not worth doing, and while I’m not sure this applies in general, I would apply it to sex. No point in half-hearted sex.
Being attracted to someone and wanting to have sex with them next minute aren’t the same thing. You usually want to also be horny to have sex. Women also want to feel comfort and trust.
A woman might feel: “I’m attracted to this guy but I’m menstruating and I don’t like it to have sex while I’m menstruating.”
That assumes that a mental idea of what she wants drives her behavior. I think in most cases a woman will instead listen to her emotions that tell her what she likes in that particular moment instead of relying too much on mental concepts.
That desire might simply be: “I want to be more intimite with this guy than I’m at the moment but I don’t want to be in public when we get more intimite.”