I agree with your ultimate points—I have recently traveled a similar self-improvement journey. But somehow your presentation is slightly off-putting. It seems just right to draw in someone like myself but leave a bad taste afterwards despite being objectively good advice.
On further reflection, I think it may be entirely due to the feeling that attraction is being reduced to an algorithm which can be run to draw in a female of the species. It’s extremely emotionally alienating. I much prefer the method employed by The Last Psychiatrist, which gives the same results but makes the pick-up process be about the woman rather than about the process the man is using.
To give an example (not a good one, I’m not Alone and can’t mimic his style well, but it’ll give some idea of the flavor):
Typical advice reads like: “Act confident. Women are attracted to confidence like moths are attracted to light. Flash confidence and they will be drawn to you.” <-- focus is on process, women are subject to their programming and not volitional beings.
Alone’s advice reads like: “Of course she doesn’t want to sleep with you. What have you ever done in life? You have a fast car, a black belt, a great job. Notice how those are all nouns, not verbs. Be a better human. Do something of value. If you can’t stand yourself, how do you expect her to want you?” <-- focus is on improving oneself, women are treated as volitional beings who can choose their mates based on the same criteria any sane person would. Note also that the confidence comes naturally simply by being better and/or doing things of consequence so there’s no need to say “act confident.”
I would wager many comments of being skeeved out spring from the impression that you are trying to manipulate other’s perceptions of yourself instead of improving oneself directly and letting others be attracted to what they see naturally. I assume that’s not actually what you did (because it generally doesn’t work), but it’s how it reads.
I agree with your ultimate points—I have recently traveled a similar self-improvement journey. But somehow your presentation is slightly off-putting. It seems just right to draw in someone like myself but leave a bad taste afterwards despite being objectively good advice.
On further reflection, I think it may be entirely due to the feeling that attraction is being reduced to an algorithm which can be run to draw in a female of the species. It’s extremely emotionally alienating. I much prefer the method employed by The Last Psychiatrist, which gives the same results but makes the pick-up process be about the woman rather than about the process the man is using.
To give an example (not a good one, I’m not Alone and can’t mimic his style well, but it’ll give some idea of the flavor):
Typical advice reads like: “Act confident. Women are attracted to confidence like moths are attracted to light. Flash confidence and they will be drawn to you.” <-- focus is on process, women are subject to their programming and not volitional beings.
Alone’s advice reads like: “Of course she doesn’t want to sleep with you. What have you ever done in life? You have a fast car, a black belt, a great job. Notice how those are all nouns, not verbs. Be a better human. Do something of value. If you can’t stand yourself, how do you expect her to want you?” <-- focus is on improving oneself, women are treated as volitional beings who can choose their mates based on the same criteria any sane person would. Note also that the confidence comes naturally simply by being better and/or doing things of consequence so there’s no need to say “act confident.”
I would wager many comments of being skeeved out spring from the impression that you are trying to manipulate other’s perceptions of yourself instead of improving oneself directly and letting others be attracted to what they see naturally. I assume that’s not actually what you did (because it generally doesn’t work), but it’s how it reads.