His assessment was that it couldn’t have been something he had said. It’s not like they had any important new information about him that could rationally be a good reason to reject him. “Oh, you seemed kinda cool at first, but now that you said X, Y and Z, I interpret those as bad signals, and now I’m not interested enough to continue talking to you.”
If someone isn’t vulnerable enough to say anything that could be seen as a “bad signal” that’s in turn important information for the girl and probably a good reason to reject him.
Any communication that’s intended to be too safe to be rejected is likely boring. It also signals unwillingness to take risks. The icebreaker-type messages are likely boring.
That is a good point. I’m no dating expert but my read is that icebreaker type stuff is normal in the very beginning. If it failed to progress to something more exciting or vulnerable after some period of time, that would be a bad signal, but before that period of time it wouldn’t be, and that in my cousin’s case it was before then.
If someone isn’t vulnerable enough to say anything that could be seen as a “bad signal” that’s in turn important information for the girl and probably a good reason to reject him.
Any communication that’s intended to be too safe to be rejected is likely boring. It also signals unwillingness to take risks. The icebreaker-type messages are likely boring.
That is a good point. I’m no dating expert but my read is that icebreaker type stuff is normal in the very beginning. If it failed to progress to something more exciting or vulnerable after some period of time, that would be a bad signal, but before that period of time it wouldn’t be, and that in my cousin’s case it was before then.