Wow, you are right! For someone who is trying to be as open as I can, I sometimes forget that option. I should just say “Those kinds of questions make me uncomfortable, so I would really appreciate if you didn’t ask them”. Thanks!
Personally I try to avoid being involved with people who try to emotionally blackmail me into bolstering their self-esteem, but that’s not a lot of help once you’re already involved with them.
In that situation I’d probably try and turn it into a strategic joke by saying something like “Eugh, no...look at those horrible shapely legs and disgusting pert breasts; yuck, no way,” or something to that effect. Bonus points for picking characteristics where your girlfriend has the edge.
Use this at your own risk. I take no responsibility for its efficacy.
Wow, you are right! For someone who is trying to be as open as I can, I sometimes forget that option. I should just say “Those kinds of questions make me uncomfortable, so I would really appreciate if you didn’t ask them”. Thanks!
Personally I try to avoid being involved with people who try to emotionally blackmail me into bolstering their self-esteem, but that’s not a lot of help once you’re already involved with them.
In that situation I’d probably try and turn it into a strategic joke by saying something like “Eugh, no...look at those horrible shapely legs and disgusting pert breasts; yuck, no way,” or something to that effect. Bonus points for picking characteristics where your girlfriend has the edge.
Use this at your own risk. I take no responsibility for its efficacy.