Hmm. I’m going to suggest something that I just thought of and that may or may not be helpful, but here goes:
The trouble with narratives is that once you have one, it’s really hard to go back to not having a narrative. Heroism is a narrative. It’s going to be really hard to go back to just doing whatever you were doing without interpreting it in some kind of narrative sense – but you can change your narrative. To something like “there are no heroes.” Heroism is a construct, a concept, but it doesn’t cut reality at the joints. The real world is more like one of those gritty crime novels, where morality isn’t a real thing and there are just humans, with drives both noble and corrupt, trying to survive.
This is a narrative I’ve had, but it wasn’t to solve the same problem. I have my couch-potato urges, like anyone, but I’ve never had to resort to much mental violence to suppress them. I think because I’m able to notice that when I follow the urges, and read sci-fi for ten hours instead of cooking and exercising and cleaning, then I feel physically bad (stiff, achy, etc), and mentally bad (foggy head, being bored but unable to think of a thing to do about it, etc). This is visceral enough feedback for my System 1 to get it and respond to an urge to stay in bed and read my book all day with “do you really want to do that?” (The prerequisite for this may be having good enough energy and mood overall that doing non-couch-potato things is pleasant or at least bearable. I’ve experienced times when this wasn’t the case – when I was so exhausted that trying to do anything other than read fanfic was painful. If trying to do work is always aversive for you, that may well be a medical issue – it’d be consistent with depression, chronic fatigue syndrome, etc.)
Have you read many of the “gritty crime novel” or other “gritty realism” genres? I think I have a felt sense for what that narrative is, but it’s hard to explain, because it comes from having read several hundred books in the genre.
Hmm. I’m going to suggest something that I just thought of and that may or may not be helpful, but here goes:
The trouble with narratives is that once you have one, it’s really hard to go back to not having a narrative. Heroism is a narrative. It’s going to be really hard to go back to just doing whatever you were doing without interpreting it in some kind of narrative sense – but you can change your narrative. To something like “there are no heroes.” Heroism is a construct, a concept, but it doesn’t cut reality at the joints. The real world is more like one of those gritty crime novels, where morality isn’t a real thing and there are just humans, with drives both noble and corrupt, trying to survive.
This is a narrative I’ve had, but it wasn’t to solve the same problem. I have my couch-potato urges, like anyone, but I’ve never had to resort to much mental violence to suppress them. I think because I’m able to notice that when I follow the urges, and read sci-fi for ten hours instead of cooking and exercising and cleaning, then I feel physically bad (stiff, achy, etc), and mentally bad (foggy head, being bored but unable to think of a thing to do about it, etc). This is visceral enough feedback for my System 1 to get it and respond to an urge to stay in bed and read my book all day with “do you really want to do that?” (The prerequisite for this may be having good enough energy and mood overall that doing non-couch-potato things is pleasant or at least bearable. I’ve experienced times when this wasn’t the case – when I was so exhausted that trying to do anything other than read fanfic was painful. If trying to do work is always aversive for you, that may well be a medical issue – it’d be consistent with depression, chronic fatigue syndrome, etc.)
I have several medical problems, yes. Changing my narrative is a good idea, thanks. Now, what will I change it to...
Have you read many of the “gritty crime novel” or other “gritty realism” genres? I think I have a felt sense for what that narrative is, but it’s hard to explain, because it comes from having read several hundred books in the genre.