But I think some people possess the skill of “being able to communicate harsh truths accurately in ways where people still find the interaction kind, graceful, respectful, and constructive.” And my understanding is that’s what people like TurnTrout are wishing for.
This is a thing, but I’m guessing that what you have in mind involves a lot more than you’re crediting of not actually trying for the crux of the conversation. As just one example, you can be “more respectful” by making fewer “sweeping claims” such as “you are making such and such error in reasoning throughout this discussion / topic / whatever”. But that’s a pretty important thing to be able to say, if you’re trying to get to real cruxes and address despair and so on.
This is a thing, but I’m guessing that what you have in mind involves a lot more than you’re crediting of not actually trying for the crux of the conversation. As just one example, you can be “more respectful” by making fewer “sweeping claims” such as “you are making such and such error in reasoning throughout this discussion / topic / whatever”. But that’s a pretty important thing to be able to say, if you’re trying to get to real cruxes and address despair and so on.