If the concepts of romantic relationships and marriage didn’t exist, I doubt most people would pursue them in those forms. For a lot of (dare I say most) people it’s a matter of culturally induced FOMO.
A romantic relationship, let alone marriage, is not an unequivocal good. Each micromarriage can be separated into a microsuccesfulmarriage part and a larger microdivorce part. There’s a real danger of such a relationship ruining your life, including opportunity costs. Survivorship bias and the shame of failure means you’ll hear a lot more from people who are currently having good experiences. Being in love is like being on cocaine; should I listen to the drug advice of drug addicts?
If the concepts of romantic relationships and marriage didn’t exist, I doubt most people would pursue them in those forms. For a lot of (dare I say most) people it’s a matter of culturally induced FOMO.
A romantic relationship, let alone marriage, is not an unequivocal good. Each micromarriage can be separated into a microsuccesfulmarriage part and a larger microdivorce part. There’s a real danger of such a relationship ruining your life, including opportunity costs. Survivorship bias and the shame of failure means you’ll hear a lot more from people who are currently having good experiences. Being in love is like being on cocaine; should I listen to the drug advice of drug addicts?