I think the problems men report on the internet of the standards being ridiculously high are a function of the different ways people find partners nowadays. There’s a reason no romantic comedies begin with the woman meeting the man inside either a bar or dating app. If you are a man who is <7/10 on the attractiveness scale, who is not socially awkward, generally confident etc., you might very well be attractive to women if they have the opportunity to meet you through work or family. But in the online era, it’s practically a requirement that you be slightly exceptionally attractive; women don’t naturally consider the median man their age a romantic prospect until he shows some kind of unusual initiative or character, an opportunity that is lost if everyone is “supposed” to be there to get into a relationship. And if you’re a technology professional outside of college, you might lack the contacts to make relationships through those venues.
I think the problems men report on the internet of the standards being ridiculously high are a function of the different ways people find partners nowadays. There’s a reason no romantic comedies begin with the woman meeting the man inside either a bar or dating app. If you are a man who is <7/10 on the attractiveness scale, who is not socially awkward, generally confident etc., you might very well be attractive to women if they have the opportunity to meet you through work or family. But in the online era, it’s practically a requirement that you be slightly exceptionally attractive; women don’t naturally consider the median man their age a romantic prospect until he shows some kind of unusual initiative or character, an opportunity that is lost if everyone is “supposed” to be there to get into a relationship. And if you’re a technology professional outside of college, you might lack the contacts to make relationships through those venues.