Another young man here largely identified as a woman by many of these criteria. I’m not sure that the author’s post generalises past their own experience, although I do agree with some of the statements as correct societal commentary.
My rough guess is that about 20% of men give up on caring about respect. My best theory is that they don’t think they can get it, so they stop putting effort into it, or seek it out only in very restricted ways that make “respect” stop feeling like the right word to describe what they’re doing, like getting good at a video game that no one ever sees them play or cultivating a sense that they are secretly better than everyone else in a way no one can detect.
I’d be interested in more data about non-modal men.
I kind of want to have my cake and eat it too, it depends on situation context etc. I tend to desire both safety and respect, it also depends on the mood.
Another young man here largely identified as a woman by many of these criteria. I’m not sure that the author’s post generalises past their own experience, although I do agree with some of the statements as correct societal commentary.
My rough guess is that about 20% of men give up on caring about respect. My best theory is that they don’t think they can get it, so they stop putting effort into it, or seek it out only in very restricted ways that make “respect” stop feeling like the right word to describe what they’re doing, like getting good at a video game that no one ever sees them play or cultivating a sense that they are secretly better than everyone else in a way no one can detect.
I’d be interested in more data about non-modal men.
I kind of want to have my cake and eat it too, it depends on situation context etc. I tend to desire both safety and respect, it also depends on the mood.