It is quite possible to hyperoptimize for that one particular yumminess, then burn out and later realize that one values other things too—as many a parent learns when the midlife crisis hits.
So true, this reminds me of Jung’s emphasis on “the shadow“—it’s important to acknowledge (and not discount) “values” you hold that are selfish or otherwise not ostensibly pro-social.
… your actual Values long term (which usually involves other people)
This is also important to note. We are often torn between selfish wants and the wants and needs of others. This can be framed as selfishness = bad, concern for others = good. But I think it’s better interpreted as you say, that “goodness” is usually aligned with our own long-term interests which are often also aligned with the interests of others. So your values need not be a zero-sum contest between your interests and the interests of others.
So true, this reminds me of Jung’s emphasis on “the shadow“—it’s important to acknowledge (and not discount) “values” you hold that are selfish or otherwise not ostensibly pro-social.
This is also important to note. We are often torn between selfish wants and the wants and needs of others. This can be framed as selfishness = bad, concern for others = good. But I think it’s better interpreted as you say, that “goodness” is usually aligned with our own long-term interests which are often also aligned with the interests of others. So your values need not be a zero-sum contest between your interests and the interests of others.