Good points as usual! On a meta note, I thought when writing this “Steve will probably say something like he usually says, and I still haven’t fully incorporated it into my models, hopefully I’ll absorb some more this time”.
Anyway, I don’t think I want to deny the existence of (A). I want to say that “style X is cool” is a true part of the girl’s values insofar as style X summons up yummy/yearning/completeness/etc feelings on its own, and is not a true part of her values insofar as the feelings involved are mostly social anxiety or a yearning to be liked. (The desire to be liked would then be a part of her values, insofar as the prospect of being liked is what actually triggers the yearning.)
I do want to say that stuff is a true part of one’s values once it triggers those feelings, regardless of whether memes were involved in installing the values along the way. I want to distinguish that from the case where people “tie themselves in knots”, trying to act like they value something or telling themselves that they value something when the feelings are not in fact there, because they’ve been told (or logically convinced themselves) they “should” value the thing.
Good points as usual! On a meta note, I thought when writing this “Steve will probably say something like he usually says, and I still haven’t fully incorporated it into my models, hopefully I’ll absorb some more this time”.
Anyway, I don’t think I want to deny the existence of (A). I want to say that “style X is cool” is a true part of the girl’s values insofar as style X summons up yummy/yearning/completeness/etc feelings on its own, and is not a true part of her values insofar as the feelings involved are mostly social anxiety or a yearning to be liked. (The desire to be liked would then be a part of her values, insofar as the prospect of being liked is what actually triggers the yearning.)
I do want to say that stuff is a true part of one’s values once it triggers those feelings, regardless of whether memes were involved in installing the values along the way. I want to distinguish that from the case where people “tie themselves in knots”, trying to act like they value something or telling themselves that they value something when the feelings are not in fact there, because they’ve been told (or logically convinced themselves) they “should” value the thing.