I agree with your definition of disappointment. And I agree that the concepts choice and disappointment are quite far apart.
My biggest point was “accept the world first”, like you said. The open question is how common the problem I tried to describe is.
I still have the feeling that not having accepted a disappointment is a common reason for choices to feel hard. That doesn‘t seem obvious with your definition of “tough” choice, though. I was going for a more narrow definition, which would make that statement more tautological. I like your definition, and mine was a bit ad-hoc.
I agree with your definition of disappointment. And I agree that the concepts choice and disappointment are quite far apart.
My biggest point was “accept the world first”, like you said. The open question is how common the problem I tried to describe is.
I still have the feeling that not having accepted a disappointment is a common reason for choices to feel hard. That doesn‘t seem obvious with your definition of “tough” choice, though. I was going for a more narrow definition, which would make that statement more tautological. I like your definition, and mine was a bit ad-hoc.
Need to think more about this …