I am making an experience based report with a sample size of 1 - something that may work at least for people who have some atypical feature similar to some of my atypical features. The theory is bolted on—I mostly stumbled upon these or let’s say it was subconscious theory-forming.
No, I don’t understand the reasons why the common wisdom recommends goal-consciousness. Do you?
I don’t really have many more details. With goal-consciousness I experienced internal haggling. “Just this once.” This is actually very similar to haggling with parents when I was a child. “Just this once let me stay up until the end of the film.” This may be a clue. Simply turning the rule into a goal-less taboo and identity-element turned that haggling voice off.
As a tentative theory, this may have something to do with upbringing, routines installed via parenting. Whether it works may depend on your upbringing. The Boss (higher self) is clearly a parental voice in my head. Also, lost my dad a year ago, and I made The Boss sub-agent only a month ago, it is quite possible that a parent needs to go from real living person to an idealized memory, and the way grieving works is that we simulate chunks of the deceased person in our mind, sometimes even converse with it (what would dad do etc.) and perhaps this all is a prerequisite for this. I.e. parent dies, you simulate him/her, after a year or so as some memories fade the simulation becomes less detailed and more idealized, and then the simulation can act as The Boss? Provided the parent was bossy enough. I would say, a respected school teacher, a mentor, sensei, basically an Obi-one Kenobi can work too. Minus the supernatural element, it is akin to what Luke was doing, simulating Kenobi’s ghost in his mind as a mentor.
But you were asking about the other aspect. I am not sure if that is related. Perhaps the loss of a parent can lead to a weakend identity, making it easier to construct a more useful one. As you certainly feel more “free”, way less judgement, but this does not feel like the good kind of freedom (for me).
No, I don’t understand the reasons why the common wisdom recommends goal-consciousness. Do you?
There are still things I’m not clear about, but I have around to understand a bit. I’m having forum discussion about personal development issues for around a decade. After years of arguing that SMART goals are bullshit I’m finally having them and using them on a daily basis.
If you want to have a room at a comfortable temperature you have to give the thermostat a target temperature. A thermostat is a quite basic cybernetic system and most cybernetic systems simply work that way.
I believe human weight regulation to be cybernetic in nature as well. Both the Hacker diet and Seth Roberts Shangri La diet build on that principle. I also know hypnotists who think that changing the internal set point for weight is very important.
Goals in human movement are also interesting. If you take away movement goal via hypnosis and just tell a person to try to move their arm they can’t move their arm. Only when a goal of moving to position B comes into consciousness it’s possible to move the arm from A to B. Getting clear about movement intentions is also very useful in Alexanders Method and Danis Bois perceptive pedagogy. It allow doing movements with much less tension.
I am making an experience based report with a sample size of 1 - something that may work at least for people who have some atypical feature similar to some of my atypical features.
A personal report about an approach to weight loss isn’t worth much without the person actually speaking about their experience. How much weight was lost? Over what time frame?
Whether it works may depend on your upbringing. The Boss (higher self) is clearly a parental voice in my head. Also, lost my dad a year ago, and I made The Boss sub-agent only a month ago, it is quite possible that a parent needs to go from real living person to an idealized memory, and the way grieving works is that we simulate chunks of the deceased person in our mind, sometimes even converse with it (what would dad do etc.) and perhaps this all is a prerequisite for this.
In the case of “The Boss” the question is not only whether it works but whether it’s worth paying the price. I’m not sure you understand the price you are paying.
I am making an experience based report with a sample size of 1 - something that may work at least for people who have some atypical feature similar to some of my atypical features. The theory is bolted on—I mostly stumbled upon these or let’s say it was subconscious theory-forming.
No, I don’t understand the reasons why the common wisdom recommends goal-consciousness. Do you?
I don’t really have many more details. With goal-consciousness I experienced internal haggling. “Just this once.” This is actually very similar to haggling with parents when I was a child. “Just this once let me stay up until the end of the film.” This may be a clue. Simply turning the rule into a goal-less taboo and identity-element turned that haggling voice off.
As a tentative theory, this may have something to do with upbringing, routines installed via parenting. Whether it works may depend on your upbringing. The Boss (higher self) is clearly a parental voice in my head. Also, lost my dad a year ago, and I made The Boss sub-agent only a month ago, it is quite possible that a parent needs to go from real living person to an idealized memory, and the way grieving works is that we simulate chunks of the deceased person in our mind, sometimes even converse with it (what would dad do etc.) and perhaps this all is a prerequisite for this. I.e. parent dies, you simulate him/her, after a year or so as some memories fade the simulation becomes less detailed and more idealized, and then the simulation can act as The Boss? Provided the parent was bossy enough. I would say, a respected school teacher, a mentor, sensei, basically an Obi-one Kenobi can work too. Minus the supernatural element, it is akin to what Luke was doing, simulating Kenobi’s ghost in his mind as a mentor.
But you were asking about the other aspect. I am not sure if that is related. Perhaps the loss of a parent can lead to a weakend identity, making it easier to construct a more useful one. As you certainly feel more “free”, way less judgement, but this does not feel like the good kind of freedom (for me).
There are still things I’m not clear about, but I have around to understand a bit. I’m having forum discussion about personal development issues for around a decade. After years of arguing that SMART goals are bullshit I’m finally having them and using them on a daily basis.
If you want to have a room at a comfortable temperature you have to give the thermostat a target temperature. A thermostat is a quite basic cybernetic system and most cybernetic systems simply work that way.
I believe human weight regulation to be cybernetic in nature as well. Both the Hacker diet and Seth Roberts Shangri La diet build on that principle. I also know hypnotists who think that changing the internal set point for weight is very important.
Goals in human movement are also interesting. If you take away movement goal via hypnosis and just tell a person to try to move their arm they can’t move their arm. Only when a goal of moving to position B comes into consciousness it’s possible to move the arm from A to B. Getting clear about movement intentions is also very useful in Alexanders Method and Danis Bois perceptive pedagogy. It allow doing movements with much less tension.
A personal report about an approach to weight loss isn’t worth much without the person actually speaking about their experience. How much weight was lost? Over what time frame?
In the case of “The Boss” the question is not only whether it works but whether it’s worth paying the price. I’m not sure you understand the price you are paying.