There is a failure mode here of overinvesting in status signals and underinvesting in being a pillar of your friend group.
I already have a good “status” so it’s not a priority anyway, relative to the other areas.
If you are a piller in your friend group and people rely you that’s status. If you introduce a woman to you friends it’s attractive if those friends consider you a piller of the friend group.
There is a failure mode here of overinvesting in status signals and underinvesting in being a pillar of your friend group.
I already have a good “status” so it’s not a priority anyway, relative to the other areas.
If you are a piller in your friend group and people rely you that’s status. If you introduce a woman to you friends it’s attractive if those friends consider you a piller of the friend group.