Is equating bluntess and directness warranted? Bluntness seems to be a quality direct questions or statements may or may not have: one might directly but politely ask for something.
If they are not the same, then the “count the echoes” no longer applies: ask culture does not preclude any amount of echo tracking.
there are certain type of guessy places, when directness considered rude or blunt, when you just can’t politely ask for something, because the mere act of asking directly considered impolite.
for example, can person in corporate environment come and politely ask their boss for sex?
I, personally, think that places as i described doing something wrong, and mostly try to avoid them, and if i had to be there, I’m not playing by the rules. From my point of view, it’s sort of trap, to declare something ruse, and then when someone say it, to pretend you care only about the rudeness, that you don’t just forbid certain opinions to be expressed. it’s attempt to forbid expressing certain opinions while pretending to not doing that.
the ability to distinguish between directness and rudeness is asky, in my model, while guessy places tend to equate the two.
Is equating bluntess and directness warranted? Bluntness seems to be a quality direct questions or statements may or may not have: one might directly but politely ask for something.
If they are not the same, then the “count the echoes” no longer applies: ask culture does not preclude any amount of echo tracking.
there are certain type of guessy places, when directness considered rude or blunt, when you just can’t politely ask for something, because the mere act of asking directly considered impolite.
for example, can person in corporate environment come and politely ask their boss for sex?
I’m not sure how the presence of such places argues for or against equating bluntness with directness.
I, personally, think that places as i described doing something wrong, and mostly try to avoid them, and if i had to be there, I’m not playing by the rules. From my point of view, it’s sort of trap, to declare something ruse, and then when someone say it, to pretend you care only about the rudeness, that you don’t just forbid certain opinions to be expressed. it’s attempt to forbid expressing certain opinions while pretending to not doing that.
the ability to distinguish between directness and rudeness is asky, in my model, while guessy places tend to equate the two.