I don’t ask for unreasonable things. I do ask for reasonable things with the understanding that people don’t like saying no, but aren’t obligated to say yes. The more demanding the ask, the more I consider the social implications. There is a cost to asking or being asked, but that’s the expected way to communicate.
I think you’re much closer to the-thing-people-have-chosen-to-cluster-under-the-label-guess culture than you think! This is pretty close to a description of basic guess culture perspective, with the main asky part just being an acknowledgement that people aren’t obligated to say yes.
(I will note, in agreement with you, that Ask/Guess is not a true dichotomy, and that the above is evidence in favor of that.)
I think you’re much closer to the-thing-people-have-chosen-to-cluster-under-the-label-guess culture than you think! This is pretty close to a description of basic guess culture perspective, with the main asky part just being an acknowledgement that people aren’t obligated to say yes.
(I will note, in agreement with you, that Ask/Guess is not a true dichotomy, and that the above is evidence in favor of that.)