I think it works as long as they benefit from the rules and the overall scheme and trust you that you help them grow. If the rules get relaxed or extended as they grow (which may be fast). Some parents try to create fear of things they believe to be dangerous or that they want the kids to avoid for other reasons. If kids figure out that these things are not actually dangerous they will wonder what else they have been lied to. They may be mistaken in this so it is important to back it up. One example is: “Don’t put your finger in the door gap (esp the one at the hinges).” “Why not? Doesn’t look dangerous.” Explain levers by demonstrating with a nut or something else they know is pretty hard.
I think it works as long as they benefit from the rules and the overall scheme and trust you that you help them grow. If the rules get relaxed or extended as they grow (which may be fast). Some parents try to create fear of things they believe to be dangerous or that they want the kids to avoid for other reasons. If kids figure out that these things are not actually dangerous they will wonder what else they have been lied to. They may be mistaken in this so it is important to back it up. One example is: “Don’t put your finger in the door gap (esp the one at the hinges).” “Why not? Doesn’t look dangerous.” Explain levers by demonstrating with a nut or something else they know is pretty hard.