I think one thing you can do is get involved in spaces and activities in which it is known that effort and diligence give results.
The classic example is exercise. Other examples could be tidying your home, the author gives the example of cooking for yourself.
Personally, during Covid I was one of those people who got really into chess. I did a LOT of practice puzzles and developed a sharp tactical instinct, as well as a sense of gritty perseverance and attention to detail. More importantly, I do feel it improved my sense that “I can get better at things, look, that’s the graph of my chess rating”.
I think it makes sense to find areas of life where feedback is faster, improve morale, and port that over to careers and relationships, where feedback is slower and often full of setbacks. You might get an amazing job, only to find that your company does layoffs, and you struggle to find a similar job and have to take a step back into less interesting work for a time (I am personally in the middle of this, lol)
Tiding one’s home is a bad example. Cleaning it doesn’t really stop it from getting messy again, especially if you live with other people that make messes.
I think one thing you can do is get involved in spaces and activities in which it is known that effort and diligence give results.
The classic example is exercise. Other examples could be tidying your home, the author gives the example of cooking for yourself.
Personally, during Covid I was one of those people who got really into chess. I did a LOT of practice puzzles and developed a sharp tactical instinct, as well as a sense of gritty perseverance and attention to detail. More importantly, I do feel it improved my sense that “I can get better at things, look, that’s the graph of my chess rating”.
I think it makes sense to find areas of life where feedback is faster, improve morale, and port that over to careers and relationships, where feedback is slower and often full of setbacks. You might get an amazing job, only to find that your company does layoffs, and you struggle to find a similar job and have to take a step back into less interesting work for a time (I am personally in the middle of this, lol)
Tiding one’s home is a bad example. Cleaning it doesn’t really stop it from getting messy again, especially if you live with other people that make messes.