“We understand how dangerous a mask can be. We all become what we pretend to be.” ― Patrick Rothfuss, The Name of the Wind
I don’t think that changing your preferences is the same thing as wearing a mask.
If you want to increase your enjoyment of the company of women you might start to do gratitude journaling where you write down everything enjoyable that happens while you are in the company with women.
You could also do another CBT intervention of finding mental distortions. You might find that you are frustrate in the company of woman because they frequently do stuff you don’t consider rational*. Under the terms of the feeling good handbook that reflects that you suffer under the mental distortions of using “should statements”.
You have expectations of how they are supposed to behave. You could switch those expectations against a more realistic expectation. Women are complex systems and studying how the systems work is an interesting activity.
I think most of the people who speak about hacking enjoyment don’t think about what practical steps it entails.
Disclaimer:
*I’m not saying that women are irrational. I’m saying that there are guys who would be more happy if they would let go of a few expectations of how other people should act and switch to become curious in using their intelligence to discover how other people act.
I don’t think that changing your preferences is the same thing as wearing a mask.
If you want to increase your enjoyment of the company of women you might start to do gratitude journaling where you write down everything enjoyable that happens while you are in the company with women.
You could also do another CBT intervention of finding mental distortions. You might find that you are frustrate in the company of woman because they frequently do stuff you don’t consider rational*. Under the terms of the feeling good handbook that reflects that you suffer under the mental distortions of using “should statements”.
You have expectations of how they are supposed to behave. You could switch those expectations against a more realistic expectation. Women are complex systems and studying how the systems work is an interesting activity.
I think most of the people who speak about hacking enjoyment don’t think about what practical steps it entails.
Disclaimer: *I’m not saying that women are irrational. I’m saying that there are guys who would be more happy if they would let go of a few expectations of how other people should act and switch to become curious in using their intelligence to discover how other people act.