I very much appreciated the way that this post brought out different people having very different reactions to you in a very intimate domain. I’ve had some tendency towards feeling “if a partner isn’t happy with me sexually, then It Is Me Who Is Bad”, and while I intellectually knew that to be false (especially given that some partners have also been happy with me), seeing it be false for another person is helpful for having the fact of its falsehood also sink in emotionally.
I very much appreciated the way that this post brought out different people having very different reactions to you in a very intimate domain. I’ve had some tendency towards feeling “if a partner isn’t happy with me sexually, then It Is Me Who Is Bad”, and while I intellectually knew that to be false (especially given that some partners have also been happy with me), seeing it be false for another person is helpful for having the fact of its falsehood also sink in emotionally.