he justifies it to himself that this is whats best for her and that this is whats needed for her to pass exams and get into a good school. what he doesn’t fucking understand and refuses to, is that it’s 2025 and we’re in the uk—if she was passionate about maths, enjoyed it, liked doing it and did it herself (an inclination she has very much shown—i used to make maths treasure hunts for her which she really really loved and would ask me to make more and get her friends to join in as well, often with topics like simultaneus equations and other very basic algebra (she was 6-10 when i was doing this—started with Elsa characters to get her used to algebra, Elsa and Anna instead of X and Y, e.g.)), then she would have a much much better chance of a future career than becoming traumatized with maths, hating it and getting into a Grammar School. Even if she was in a normal primary school, if she loved maths and had that passion cultivated, respected and let loose, she would have a much much better future than the one he’s making for her.
But he has this image of things in his head and is far far too insecure to ever let it be questioned.
Well, that sucks. One thing he definitely succeeds at is associating math with bad feelings. Which in long term will be more important than all the small benefits he might gain in short term. :(
Many people seem to make the same mistake, I guess we have some natural bias towards that kind of thinking.
Well, that sucks. One thing he definitely succeeds at is associating math with bad feelings. Which in long term will be more important than all the small benefits he might gain in short term. :(
For me, it was ‘handwriting’ - I still have a lot of trouble and fear when it comes to writing things, especially official things that are long, I think in part because of that.
Many people seem to make the same mistake, I guess we have some natural bias towards that kind of thinking.
I don’t think it’s so much a natural bias, more that insecurity and fragile egos, combined with being in new situations and in a position of power, naturally lead to this.
he justifies it to himself that this is whats best for her and that this is whats needed for her to pass exams and get into a good school. what he doesn’t fucking understand and refuses to, is that it’s 2025 and we’re in the uk—if she was passionate about maths, enjoyed it, liked doing it and did it herself (an inclination she has very much shown—i used to make maths treasure hunts for her which she really really loved and would ask me to make more and get her friends to join in as well, often with topics like simultaneus equations and other very basic algebra (she was 6-10 when i was doing this—started with Elsa characters to get her used to algebra, Elsa and Anna instead of X and Y, e.g.)), then she would have a much much better chance of a future career than becoming traumatized with maths, hating it and getting into a Grammar School. Even if she was in a normal primary school, if she loved maths and had that passion cultivated, respected and let loose, she would have a much much better future than the one he’s making for her.
But he has this image of things in his head and is far far too insecure to ever let it be questioned.
Well, that sucks. One thing he definitely succeeds at is associating math with bad feelings. Which in long term will be more important than all the small benefits he might gain in short term. :(
Many people seem to make the same mistake, I guess we have some natural bias towards that kind of thinking.
May I recommend you this book for your sister? Three Days in Dwarfland
And the book I wish your father would read is Don’t Shoot the Dog.
I also made a few interactive exercises for addition and subtraction (works much better on computer than phone).
And of course, there is Khan Academy.
For me, it was ‘handwriting’ - I still have a lot of trouble and fear when it comes to writing things, especially official things that are long, I think in part because of that.
I don’t think it’s so much a natural bias, more that insecurity and fragile egos, combined with being in new situations and in a position of power, naturally lead to this.