Accusing someone of being stubborn in the middle of an argument doesn’t make sense. If the argument is still going, you’re both being that stubborn.
Maybe you mean to accuse them of being unreasonable, of sticking to a statement that is clearly false. In that case, say that.
It can make sense to accuse someone of being stubborn in general, if you often yield to their requests and they rarely yield to yours.
Note: I guess “stubborn” can mean what I’ve used “unreasonable” to mean. I feel like I’ve been told I’m being too stubborn just for sticking to my guns for too long, when they haven’t even tried to really argue with me and so can’t say that I’m being unreasonable in light of good counterarguments. I wish I could swap “stubborn” for a word like “persistent”, but I can’t think of one that means the right thing and has the right ring. I’m posting anyway because Quick Take.
I’d recommend to defuse the word—if someone complains you’re stubborn, thank them for the compliment, that you are persistent in your use of logic in forming your beliefs.
Scream! This feels like an extremely rude thing to do… then again, I guess the person making the accusation is probably being pretty rude to begin with… maybe it works?
This varies a lot with what kind of discussion is going on, but many times where it’s OK to call someone stubborn, it’s ALSO ok to defend stubborn-ness as a positive trait.
Accusing someone of being stubborn in the middle of an argument doesn’t make sense. If the argument is still going, you’re both being that stubborn.
Maybe you mean to accuse them of being unreasonable, of sticking to a statement that is clearly false. In that case, say that.
It can make sense to accuse someone of being stubborn in general, if you often yield to their requests and they rarely yield to yours.
Note: I guess “stubborn” can mean what I’ve used “unreasonable” to mean. I feel like I’ve been told I’m being too stubborn just for sticking to my guns for too long, when they haven’t even tried to really argue with me and so can’t say that I’m being unreasonable in light of good counterarguments. I wish I could swap “stubborn” for a word like “persistent”, but I can’t think of one that means the right thing and has the right ring. I’m posting anyway because Quick Take.
I’d recommend to defuse the word—if someone complains you’re stubborn, thank them for the compliment, that you are persistent in your use of logic in forming your beliefs.
Scream! This feels like an extremely rude thing to do… then again, I guess the person making the accusation is probably being pretty rude to begin with… maybe it works?
This varies a lot with what kind of discussion is going on, but many times where it’s OK to call someone stubborn, it’s ALSO ok to defend stubborn-ness as a positive trait.