It sounds quite intense, though I’m hesitant to describe it as “too hard” as I don’t know how children should be reared. The cringing was more at what I perceive as some cognitive dissonance, with “I didn’t want to be a tiger parent” coinciding with informing them they didn’t really have a choice because it was their job (I don’t see the compromise there, nor do I put much stock in a 3-5 year old’s ability to negotiate compromises, though these do sound like extraordinary children). But my views are strongly influenced by my upbringing which was a very hands off, “do what you enjoy” mentality. That could be a terrible approach. Internally I grapple with what the appropriate level of parental guidance is, to the extent that can be ascertained… [Narrator: It can’t.]
Did you think they were going too easy on their children or too hard? Or some orthogonal values mismatch?
It sounds quite intense, though I’m hesitant to describe it as “too hard” as I don’t know how children should be reared. The cringing was more at what I perceive as some cognitive dissonance, with “I didn’t want to be a tiger parent” coinciding with informing them they didn’t really have a choice because it was their job (I don’t see the compromise there, nor do I put much stock in a 3-5 year old’s ability to negotiate compromises, though these do sound like extraordinary children). But my views are strongly influenced by my upbringing which was a very hands off, “do what you enjoy” mentality. That could be a terrible approach. Internally I grapple with what the appropriate level of parental guidance is, to the extent that can be ascertained… [Narrator: It can’t.]