I don’t think reluctance to make commitments here is actually a bad patch—there’s something really mature and refreshing about someone who says, “Look, I find myself needing to cancel a lot, so I don’t want to PROMISE I’ll be there, K?”
I think it’s fixable, but it’s also possible that it’s not a super urgent priority/the most important thing for you. I’d evaluate THAT question first, and then if you decide it is important, take things slowly as you try to improve it. Expect to make mistakes, look for what actually works rather than what should work, etc.
I don’t think reluctance to make commitments here is actually a bad patch—there’s something really mature and refreshing about someone who says, “Look, I find myself needing to cancel a lot, so I don’t want to PROMISE I’ll be there, K?”
I think it’s fixable, but it’s also possible that it’s not a super urgent priority/the most important thing for you. I’d evaluate THAT question first, and then if you decide it is important, take things slowly as you try to improve it. Expect to make mistakes, look for what actually works rather than what should work, etc.