It certainly depends on who’s arguing. I agree that some sources online see this trade-off and end up on the side of not using flags after some deliberation, and I think that’s perfectly fine. But this describes only a subset of cases, and my impression is that very often (and certainly in the cases I experienced personally) it is not even acknowledged that usability, or anything else, may also be a concern that should inform the decision.
(I admit though that “perpetuates colonialism” is a spin that goes beyond “it’s not a 1:1 mapping” and is more convincing to me)
Some further examples:
Past me might have said: Apple products are “worse” because they are overpriced status symbols
Many claims in politics, say “we should raise the minimum wage because it helps workers”
We shouldn’t use nuclear power because it’s not really “renewable”
When AI lab CEOs warn of AI x risk we can dismiss that because they might just want to build hype
AI cannot be intelligent, or dangerous, because it’s just matrix multiplications
One shouldn’t own a cat because it’s an unnatural way for a cat to live
Pretty much any any-benefit mindset that makes it into an argument rather than purely existing in a person’s behavior