CelestialCup

• CelestialCup 3 Feb 2026 14:22 UTC

  5 points

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  on: The Weird­ness of Dat­ing/​Mat­ing: Deep Non­con­sent Preference

  Generalizing just a little bit beyond rape fantasies: AFAICT, being verbally asked for consent is super-duper a turn off for most women. Same with having to initiate sex; AFAICT, women typically really want sex to be someone else’ doing, something which happens to her.

  This isn’t about consent. From her perspective she already orchestrated the situation in which you find yourself alone with her. It’s a matter of communication. You should be able to tell that she has already laid all the groundwork for what is to follow. There’s no question of consent.

  Generalizing further: AFAICT, having to ask a guy out is super-duper a turn off for most women. Notice the analogy here to “women typically really want sex to be someone else’ doing”. Even at a much earlier stage of courtship, women typically really want a date to be someone else’ doing, really want every step of escalation to be someone else’ doing.

  Yes, because women want to be sought after. Women want the guy to pick them out of many other options. Again, nothing to do with consent.

  In both these cases you are essentially making the implication that the woman’s decision to sleep with the man or to go out with him, is influenced by the man’s action, but this is not the case. The woman has already made up her mind and given the man the opportunity. It’s up to the man to take it. But there is no question of consent here.

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• CelestialCup 24 Jan 2026 9:48 UTC

  2 points

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  on: Dat­ing Roundup #11: Go­ing Too Meta

  Location is definitely important. I wonder if one should optimize for better gender ratios or whether there is more to consider. I also wonder at what kind of gender ratio is the probability of success most fruitful. Can too much gender imbalance in your favour be detrimental?