On the topic of paying for the date I have a universal magic phrase. “I’m ok to pay for this, but if you’re more comfortable with split that’s fine too”. And then actually listen to the answer. Of course it’s not bulletproof, some people will get offended even by the fact you’ve asked, but those are people I specifically don’t want to deepen relationship with, so it’s a win win.
On the topic of paying for the date I have a universal magic phrase. “I’m ok to pay for this, but if you’re more comfortable with split that’s fine too”. And then actually listen to the answer. Of course it’s not bulletproof, some people will get offended even by the fact you’ve asked, but those are people I specifically don’t want to deepen relationship with, so it’s a win win.