I tend to over-optimize in social contexts and am lucky to have friends who understand my vagaries. They do consider it somewhat disturbing though that I seem to try to actively maximize the amount of total benefit we both get out of every conversation, as if it’s a kind of job, but I have a hard time stopping myself from thinking that way.
I tend to over-optimize in social contexts and am lucky to have friends who understand my vagaries. They do consider it somewhat disturbing though that I seem to try to actively maximize the amount of total benefit we both get out of every conversation, as if it’s a kind of job, but I have a hard time stopping myself from thinking that way.