Sorry about my tardiness when responding to comments. I don’t visit LessWrong very often. Maybe in future I should refrain from posting comments unless I am sure that I have the time and diligence to participate satisfactorily in any discussion that my comments might generate, since I wouldn’t want to come across as rude.
Another possibility here is that your perceptions of intelligence levels are really off.
After reading and thinking a bit about this comment, I think you might be right, especially regarding the point that gifted people might often
mistakenly interpret malice when only ignorance is present.
I am rather bad at reading other people. I am not diagnosed with any degree of autism, but I am rather socially stunted nevertheless. As I mentioned in an earlier comment, I can be socially inept. This self-assessment was the conclusion of many instances where I was informed that I had grossly misunderstood certain social situations or inadvertently committed some kind of faux pas.
It is also generally difficult for me to gauge whether specific comments of mine might be construed as passive-aggressive/condescending. When you asked if my intention was to insult you, my response was “No, but I am sorry that you feel that way”. In the past, when I did not know any better, I would have said, “No, and don’t be so sensitive.” As you can imagine, that response usually escalated things instead of calming people down. It is a long and ongoing learning process for me to understand how to react appropriately in social contexts in order to avoid hurt feelings.
In short, it seems like I commit the mind projection fallacy a lot when interacting with other people: If I wouldn’t feel offended by certain ways of phrasing things, I assume that other people wouldn’t either. If I wouldn’t make such an ignorant mistake, I assume that other people wouldn’t either.
The reason why a few points of difference is important in this context is because the loss appears to be continuing.
When you put it like this, I can understand your concern.
Sorry about my tardiness when responding to comments. I don’t visit LessWrong very often. Maybe in future I should refrain from posting comments unless I am sure that I have the time and diligence to participate satisfactorily in any discussion that my comments might generate, since I wouldn’t want to come across as rude.
After reading and thinking a bit about this comment, I think you might be right, especially regarding the point that gifted people might often
I am rather bad at reading other people. I am not diagnosed with any degree of autism, but I am rather socially stunted nevertheless. As I mentioned in an earlier comment, I can be socially inept. This self-assessment was the conclusion of many instances where I was informed that I had grossly misunderstood certain social situations or inadvertently committed some kind of faux pas.
It is also generally difficult for me to gauge whether specific comments of mine might be construed as passive-aggressive/condescending. When you asked if my intention was to insult you, my response was “No, but I am sorry that you feel that way”. In the past, when I did not know any better, I would have said, “No, and don’t be so sensitive.” As you can imagine, that response usually escalated things instead of calming people down. It is a long and ongoing learning process for me to understand how to react appropriately in social contexts in order to avoid hurt feelings.
In short, it seems like I commit the mind projection fallacy a lot when interacting with other people: If I wouldn’t feel offended by certain ways of phrasing things, I assume that other people wouldn’t either. If I wouldn’t make such an ignorant mistake, I assume that other people wouldn’t either.
When you put it like this, I can understand your concern.